Me Before You | Disability Movie Review [CC] // aGirlWithLyme

Hey guys, today is going to be the first disability movie review Today I am going to watch the movie Me Before You and give you my feedback I had already filmed this video once before but I did not like the way it turned out so I decided to film it this way

It's much easier quicker, easier for me to edit and it's more concise and condensed The movies that I review in this series will have disabled chronically ill or terminally ill characters in the movie Just a disclaimer I do have a disability myself, multiple actually and while I'm not in a wheelchair there are many disabled people who are not in a wheelchair All of the opinions or views that I expressed in this video may not apply to all disabled people And all the opinions and views are my own

So the way this video is going to work is I'm going to tell you the plot of the movie, who the actors and actresses are, my initial opinions thoughts and feelings before I watch the movie, how many in the disabled community feel about the movie, and while watching the movie I will write down my thoughts and opinions which I will then share later on which is me filming, now So that is kind of how the process works when I make a video like this So before I get started on this video any further I would like to say that there are going to be spoilers, so if you have not seen this movie please do not watch any further Also please comment below what movies you would like me to review next that have a disabled, chronically ill, or terminally ill character within the movie So Me Before You is categorized as a drama romance it came out in 2016, it's also based off of the book of the same name by Jojo Moyes

Here is what the film is about Young and quirky Louisa 'Lou' Clark played by Emilia Clark, moved from one job to the next to help her family make ends meet Her cheerful attitude is put to the test when she becomes a caregiver for Will Traynor, played by Sam Claflin, a wealthy young banker left paralyzed from an accident two years earlier Will's cynical outlook starts to change when Lousia shows him that life is worth living As their bond deepens their lives and hearts change in ways neither one could have imagined

So the actors actresses in this movie are I will put them probably on the screen so you can see their faces if you don't, you know you can't put names to faces So we have Emilia Clarke playing Louisa or 'Lou' Clark We have Sam Claflin playing Will Traynor

We have Jenna Coleman as Katrina Clark, Lou's sister We have Charles Dance as Steven Traynor, Will's dad Uh, we have Janet McTeer as Camellia Traynor, Will's mother We have Matthew Lewis as Patrick, Lou's boyfriend We have Brendan Coyle as Bernard Clark, Lou's dad

We have Vanessa Kirby as Alicia Dewares, Will's ex-girlfriend We have Ben Lloyd Hughes as Rupert Collins, Will's ex-best friend We have Steve Pea – Paco – I can't pronounce his last name as (lol) as Nathan, Will's male nurse and full-time caregiver So those are pretty much all the main characters in the plot that you kinda need to know about Okay so my initial thoughts and opinions before watching this movie, is that it's a romance The girl takes care of a guy in a wheelchair and they end up falling in love

But the guy in the wheelchair decides because he's disabled he can't live his life as a disabled person and so he goes and he commits assisted suicide Because there is a disabled character in this movie that commits suicide I typically would not watch this movie at all, especially after I heard all the backlash from it Um, it's really not something I would watch and support and say "oh this is such a great movie because, {sigh} it's probably not going to be a great movie or something I would enjoy And I think that having a disabled character that goes and commits assisted suicide is very damaging and not something that really should be portrayed in the disabled community considering so many things concerning eugenics with disabled people I did not have the greatest opinion of this movie

So how do people in the disabled community feel about this movie? I'm gonna go to wiki for that The film has suffered a backlash from many people in the disability rights movement due to what they perceive as an underlying message that people with disabilities are a burden on their families and carers And claim the film promotes the view that disabled people are better off dead than disabled The view of the film as advocating suicide so that their loved ones can live boldly The hashtag me before euthanasia backlash was led by celebrities with disabilities such as Liz Carr, Penny Pepper, Mik Scarlett, and Cherylee Houston and Not Dead Yet UK in the UK and Dominick Evans, Emily Ladau, and activists from Not Dead yet in the US

Protests in the US occurred in Los Angeles, New York, Boston various locations in Colorado, in Texas Atlanta, Baltimore, Connecticut, Rochester, San Francisco, and multiple locations around the country The film was also protested in Australia So we do not have a very warm spots from the disabled community So as I was writing the script, this is the point where I went and I watched the movie And this movie is like two and a half hours long

And while I was watching the movie I was looking at this was a very critical eye I was looking for scenes that were problematic, and boy was I not disappointed! Warning beyond this point there are going to be spoilers So right at the start of the movie, Will, who was played by Sam Claflin, is active and happy and he has a great life, and a girlfriend and then the accident happens Lou, played by Emilia Clark, she gets fired from her job and has to go and find a new one The job ends up looking for after she is fired is one to look after Will

And after quite an awkward interview she gets the job When she meets Will for the first time, Will starts to have this so-called episode where he has a fit, but he's faking it and mocking someone who may have a developmental disability, like, maybe they got cerebral palsy, it's more of long lines of how maybe some of those people with disabilities would act I really hope that does not come off as offensive but that's the best way I can explain this scene without you not actually watching it But he goes into this fit where he is mocking someone who has a different disability just to freak Lou out It does freak Lou out

This is a very disturbing scene This is so uncomfortable to watch, and it's right at the beginning of the movie It is, it's not a good scene and it's not comfortable to sit through and watch It's, {sigh} it's disturbing and it's sickening and it's disgusting And it just turns out that Will is the stereotypical, cynical, depressed, and disabled guy

Well I think that pretty much counts as our first ableist a scene in the movie, and it was honestly disgusting and wrong on many levels Later on in the movie there's this scene with Will's ex-girlfriend and ex best friend, and they come to visit And they haven't seen well since his accident pretty much While they are there, they ask him how things are going, if his mobility has improved, if he's able to, you know, regain any use of his limbs Um, It's basically just typical things that you would expect as a disabled person that able-bodied people would ask

Because able-bodied people, always want to know about disabled bodies Will's obviously very upset to see that his ex best friend and his ex-girlfriend are now together and engaged and ready to be married After they leave Will gets so mad that he smashes the pictures that he has of the three of them together I think this scene is probably the most realistic scene out of the entire movie Um, I think they actually did pretty well with this scene because it realistically depicts what happens when someone gets sick or becomes disabled, you know, what happens to the people who are surrounding you

They basically leave you, they don't talk to you, and they end up, I guess finding comfort in each other Especially after such an accident that Will had So I think that was an extremely realistic scene and it's probably the only scene that I kind of liked in the movie because it was realistic And then afterwards we reached another semi problematic point in the movie Will has to go to the hospital for a checkup and Lou came along and so did Nathan which is Will's nurse

Lou mistakenly thinks that Will is going to somehow get better She didn't know what a spinal cord injury was She thinks the physio for him is helping to regain his mobility to be able to walk again, not to maintain proper function of his body And of course once she realizes that Will is never going to get better, and he's always going to be paralyzed, and "bound in a wheelchair" she starts to feel more pity for him Also let's just talk about the fact that she takes on a job, looking after a disabled man, when she knows absolutely nothing about disabled people, their bodies, how to care for them, and how to provide proper support and care for them

And it's also pretty bad that Will's parents would take on someone and hire someone who has no prior experience with working with disabled people That makes absolutely no sense Is that normal to hire carers that know nothing about your disability, or your illness, or how to care for you, because I don't think that's quite normal And when she was hired she seemed pretty terrified at the prospect of having to give Will medication She did not seem very comfortable with giving him medication either

All in all, I, I, don't understand how she got that job Probably because she seems so happy and peppy and they wanted Will to be happier So a short while later after this scene we see Will in bed Uh, he's in bed with a cold or a flu or something like that and he's quite ill His parents are away, and the weather's bad, so Nathan, the nurse can't get there on time

And Lou is quite concerned and doesn't really know what to do because, once again she has no training and absolutely knows nothing about disabled people, specifically, spinal cord injuries, and what can happen when they become sick So Will's temperature isn't properly regulating and that's quite dangerous So, once the nurse is able to get there he does all he can to help Will And Lou it's a bit shaken up, and Will ends up being okay About halfway through the film, Lou stumbles across a Will's parents having an argument about Will's decision to commit assisted suicide in Switzerland

And she learns that Will has six months to live His father is okay with Will's decision, but his mother is desperately trying to save him And it's also mentioned that in the past Will has attempted to take his own life And when Lou hears this news she is quite upset, and she's very troubled by this, and talks to her sister about it, and her sister suggests that she tries to make Will as happy as possible to take him out, get him out of the house, you know, that sort of thing, because you know, traveling cures depression And her sister tells her to, you know, make a bucket list for Will and show him that life is worth living

She thinks that by doing this it could change Will's mindset and possibly sway his choice to commit assisted suicide And in the next scene, Lou goes through those plans and they go to the horse races, and then when they get there, Will's wheelchair – motorized wheelchair, gets stuck in the mud Nathan and Lou cannot unstuck the wheelchair, so Will is pretty much stuck there and Lou calls over a group of guys to help push Will out of the mud, which Will is very uncomfortable with, and I would imagine feels very much like a burden and emasculated by it because of course Will before becoming disabled was a very independent person Later on, Will finally meets Lou's family, including her boyfriend who ends up being late to supper During Lou's birthday supper, Lou has to feed Will, because Will does not have use of his arms

He's paralyzed pretty much on the shoulders down And Lou's boyfriend does not seem too impressed with Lou having to feed Will Lou's boyfriend Patrick, then tries to give will a fitness regime because he's a personal trainer Obviously this is not going to work out and it's a scene that those depict I think, ah, quite accurately what happens when, ah, able-bodied people try to recommend things to disabled people, which obviously does not work out for the disabled person at all In another scene Will and Lou are at a castle and he tells Lou that his favorite place to be is Paris

And Lou suggests that they should go to Paris but Will doesn't want to go Will says that he wants to be there as his old self, his abled body self He then describes the inaccessibility of Paris, the streets, his wheelchair not fitting through doors, or going on the sidewalk He describes taxi drivers refusing to take him any places because of his wheelchair, and how his wheelchair won't charge in certain outlets in Paris I think this is also quite a realistic representation of what it's like to be disabled, to have a disability, and have a world that is built for able-bodied people and something, you know, the world is so inaccessible to so many people

I think that is a quite a realistic representation But we also see that Will still has a lot of anger and feelings about being disabled and not being able to do what he wants because he is disabled And then health scare number two hits This happens after they had gone to Will's ex best friend's and ex-girlfriends wedding He ends up with a bit of cough and he has trouble regulating his body temperature and Will ends up being hospitalized with Pneumonia and it's revealed that he has had many bouts of Pneumonia in the past

And Lou still doesn't understand that Will's body weak But after Will's hospital stay, they go on a tropical vacation And they have a great time Lou thinks she has turned the Will's mind around Until the last night of their trip when Will is about to tell Lou about his plans to commit assisted suicide

And then she tells him that she already knows She then tells him, 'look I can make you happy, because look where we are We're in this beautiful tropical place, you've had such fun for the past few days, you were smiling, you were laughing you look like you're having a great time So why would you want to kill yourselves when you can just enjoy life' That's pretty much how the scene played out

And Will says no and goes on to say that him being disabled, isn't his life And then he tells Lou that they can't be happy together, and he can't on keep living his life, not feeling like the man that he once was, and that he can never give Lou everything she wants because he is disabled Will asks Lou to come with him to Switzerland when he goes to commit assisted suicide, and Lou is absolutely horrified idea They get into a fight she leaves him on the beach and she does not say a word the entire flight home She also ends up quitting her job looking after Will

Lou then later on, decides to go to Switzerland when Will is committing assisted suicide Will and Lou spend a short while together and Lou calls in his parents and then Will goes ahead with the procedure and he has committed assisted suicide The next scene we see is of Lou in Paris, reading a letter from Will that he had written before he had committed assisted suicide In the letter Will gifts Lou a generous sum of money so that she can go off to college or university and so that her family doesn't have to work so hard WIll then tells her to live boldly, to push herself, and to not settle

And, that's pretty much the end of the movie Okay so my thoughts I think watching this movie a second time I have a slightly different opinion While I think this movie as a whole is problematic, ie the ableist language, the references, the stereotypes, and the behavior And there are quite a few scenes in the movie that are ableist and quite problematic

I think when you're making a movie about a disabled character, than it is your duty to portray that character in a realistic way Not the stereotypical, you know, all disabled people are either in wheelchairs, blind, or deaf or if they're either of those things then they must be absolutely, you know, depressed, and mad, and cynical, and unhappy, because they are disabled And that is something that, you know, it's not true for most of the population and it's something that is so overplayed in movies I know money can't make people happy but Will's family were, they were rich They lived in a freaking castle, they had a lot of money, Will had the best care, the best medicine

He had a nurse, food, you know, a shelter He had a very comfortable life being disabled, which many disabled people do not have Obviously money can't make you happy but it does help to make things a bit easier when you're disabled And another problematic part of the movie was Will's attitude and the way he was portrayed Not only was he portrayed by an able-bodied man in a motorized wheelchair who has paraplegia, and some of the mannerisms he used to, you know, faked being paralyzed we're kind of awkward

Will is basically the stereotypical rich guy, who's disabled in a wheelchair He sits in his house, watches DVDs, doesn't leave the house, um, he's always in a bad mood, he's sarcastic, he's cynical, and he makes some ableist come backs His character is quite damaging to the whole of disability and how its portrayed in the media And it's portrayed in such negative light But there is another side to this and something that I don't think a lot of people have really talked about

Will is very unhappy with being disabled and not having the use of his legs and arms He talks various times throughout the film about how he wasn't a real man, because he was Disabled This is not good The message that you are sending to the general audience, when you hear a disabled character on film talk this way, is that you aren't whole, a real man, or a real woman, if you are disabled And that is a very ableist, and damaging thing to be portraying on film

And I think that's one of things people really don't talk about when reviewing this film Will had some very deep-seated, ah, internalized ableism because of his disability Another thing they really didn't mention is that Will is depressed and has suicidal tendencies We hear that he tried to commit suicide in the past and from what I can see will is very depressed It doesn't look like he was really ever to see a mental health care provider to help him work through his disability and his grief, because when you do become disabled, you do grieve your former life and your past self

But he really had no counseling on that at all from what I could tell from watching the movie because it's so blatantly obvious that he's struggling being disabled and not thinking himself as a whole person because he is disabled Will also suffers with a lot of chronic pain as the reviled by his male nurse Nathan, so you have more than one reason why it will made his decision We also have to remember that the book was written by an able-bodied author and the movie is based off of the book so much of the script would probably be very similar to the book I've ever read the book, so I don't know how similar it is but, when you typically have someone writing a book about a disabled character who is able-bodied you're going to get some very stereotypical stereotypes She obviously did not do her research or did not talk to disabled people ,and yeah, that's the result of it

You get a lot of ableist scenes and internalized ableism within disabled character itself So let's talk about the main controversy surrounding the film and that's assisted suicide for disabled people The main reason why this became so controversial is because when you talk about assisted suicide and disabled people, eugenics always comes to mind For a very long time and even still today there are people who view disabled people as less than human, waste of space, burdens on their families, and burdens on society They feel sorry for them, so they put them out of their misery by killing them

And this is very problematic I was shocked to see that so many people blatantly ignored this issue when watching or wanting to watch this movie Especially when disabled people pointed out this issue That this film is pretty much promoting eugenics And that is problematic

I don't think people or society really care though They just see a romantic movie, with a quirky girl who's happy all the time, and positive, and they see this girl looking after a very handsome looking rich disabled man, who in the end, commits suicide because he feels less than, or they sympathize with them and think oh it's so sad that they're disabled, that they have to live a life bound in a wheelchair, bound to your house Will had a lot of internalized ableism going on and there's a lot of internalized ableism everywhere in this world And a lot of able-bodied people just don't know what ableism is, what eugenics is and they don't know how to pick it out in a movie scene And specifically Will's depression isn't it all talked about in the film either

But you know he must have He hates being disabled, he feels like less than a man, less human, he wants the life he once had and he knows he's never going to get better, So he feels like a burden These are all reasons why Will wants to die Some of these are understandable, and some of these are views placed on him by society, such as, feeling like less of a man because he is disabled I think when we get talking about assisted suicide it is such a slippery slope

Right now in Canada, assisted suicide it's only available to those who are terminally ill and ready to die, pretty much And, you know you want to make it as humane, and easy, and painless as possible It's not really there for people who are disabled and want to die or have mental health issues and want to die I don't know what the laws are like in UK or the US, but there has to be precautions in place and every possible treatment and outcome has to be explored before coming to that decision Do I think this movie is ableist and problematic? Yes, I think this is a terrible portrayal of a disabled person

This movie is just for pure entertainment and I think most people pretty much ignored anything that disabled people had say it was this film, or the problematic things that are portrayed in this film as well Was the movie even enjoyable? Kind of Lou's character was very quirky, but also very, very annoying I, really didn't like her much And Will is just grumpy, rude, sarcastic, and he is just stereotypically disabled

But in a way, I do, I do feel for Will's because, it is hard being disabled, it's hard being sick, yes I completely understand that, but he's conditioned in a way to think that society doesn't want him as a disabled person and that he can't be a contribution to society which, it is very ableist and something that is very problematic and should not be portrayed We're trying, as disabled people we're trying to, you know, squash these stereotypes, and here we are having a film in, you know, 2016 that's portraying this, that many people went out and seen, and it did so well in the box office and people loved the movie because, you know, they were so happy and it was like an emotional rollercoaster, and they all cried at the end of the film, but none of them really took away what the film was about, or what that deep message was about I would give this movie probably a rating out of two of maybe five stars, maybe even less because honestly, it wasn't that enjoyable, I mean it was a little bit I could withstand watching through it, like it wasn't painfully awful, but also there was some many painfully ableist and problematic scenes that I really thought were distasteful and disgusting Would I recommend you to watch this movie? No, not really

I really wouldn't recommend anyone to watch this movie because it was that horrible Um, I think especially if you're in abled body person, and you, you know, obviously people want diversity in film, they want to see people's different perspectives and outlooks, but this is not a film you should be watching in order to gain a different perspective or view point, because it is very problematic and ableist, so yeah, and if you are disabled and going to watch this film I also caution you because this could trigger feelings of depression and maybe even suicidal ideologies, it's one of those films that can trigger you because it talks about some very heavy issues, talks about, you know, assisted suicide Will constantly talks about how he doesn't feel like a man because he is disabled I would love to know other people's opinions and thoughts on this movie if they have watched it as well, please leave those in the comments below, and if you have read the book, please leave what you think about the book in the comments below, and if you've seen the movie how it differed from the book to the movie Was the book more ableist, was the movie more ableist

Which was worse, which was better, that sort of thing, so please leave those in the comments below Also once again please leave in the comments below what movie you would like me to see to review next that has a chronically ill, disabled, or terminally ill character in the movie, I will gladly review movies I am thinking about doing this bi-monthly so my next film that I will be watching it's going to be Everything, Everything – which also received a lot of backlash from the disabled community So, thank you for watching this extremely long video, please be sure to give this video a thumbs up, subscribe your new, please be sure to hit the notification button down below to get notified when I upload new videos, all my social media links will be in the description below, and I hope to see you guys next time, bye 💚